Question: What is the difference between personal and impersonal relationships?

    What was just said. Personal relationships say, ``Its all about me.'' Therefore, your only reason for existence in this relationship is to make me happy. God help you if you don't.
    That gives me license to do anything that I want to get you back on track -- to get you back on the job of making me happy again, isn't that right? An impersonal relationship says, ``This is not about me, I am in this relationship. But the relationship is not about me and what I can get out of it.'' Okay? I'm doing it for some other reason than to get something from you, okay? Maybe I'm doing it for somebody else. Maybe I'm in this relationship with you for Life's sake -- not yours or mine. That would be impersonal, wouldn't it?
    And it also might be a lot of fun. I can afford to have fun when its not about me and what I can get. And you and what you can get. I can afford to be spontaneous and not be concerned about whether or not you'll be happy or I'll be happy, when its impersonal.
    When its personal, I can't afford to do all those things, can I?

    Right.

    I have to always be worrying about how you'll deal with this, how you'll deal with that, and whether or not you're going to do what pleases me and whether or not you're going to do that horrible, yucky thing that I hate so much. Because its all about me, its personal.
    As far as I'm concerned the only kind of relationships that are worth having are impersonal. Its done for some other reason than ``So that I can have pleasure out of a relationship and you can have pleasure out of a relationship.'' Of course I can't do nothin' about you getting pleasure out of it, nothin' I can do about that. If that's what you want to do, there's nothin' I can do about it.

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